Agree to agree with The Four Agreements
Me and the girls in my Happiness/Mindfulness group just finished reading The Four Agreements
by Don Miguel Ruiz. I own the book and read it years ago. Reading it again was just what I needed.
It's easy to get caught up in the drama of others, or make assumptions about why certain people act the way they do.
As someone who tries to practice the principles of The Twelve Steps, The Four Agreements reiterate powerlessness over how others think and feel.
The truth is, what others think of me is none of my business. Not that I'm not upset when criticized or judged, but the reality is when I am in a judging mindset, I have to check in with myself because it most definitely has to do with self-doubt or insecurity, which means the same probably goes for those doing the judging.
So, my work these last few weeks has been to step back and take things for what they are. The Universe doesn't revolve around me. My ego loves to think it does on many occasions. It's wrong. I'm also making a conscious effort to refrain from boarding the gossip train when others I know climb aboard it. Nothing good comes out of those types of interactions.
There is so much negativity going on around us. Being isolated for the past year due to COVID doesn't help. With that said, I wanted to share how powerful the message in this book is. The words are easy to read. The agreements are challenging to practice. I'm up for the task.
Just for today I will be mindful of my words, not take others' behaviors personally, not make assumptions about what others think and feel, and will do my best to be a good person.
I hope you're up for the challenge, too!